I'm not going to go into details.. but have any of you ever had a secret relationship? the 'other woman/man'? siblings ex? best friends ex? or current boy/girl friend of your sibling/bff?

what are your opinions on how it should be handled.. i really dont need to be told it's "wrong", or i should "stop it", or "dump" him etc.. just looking for views, opinions, what the rest of you have gone through.

Well, I've never personally been in that situation - I would avoid it at all costs. But my friend has, unintentionally. Basically, what happened was she was becoming good friends with a guy online. They met up and she really liked him. He ended up having a boyfriend, though. EXCEPT, he flirted with her a lot and told her that he and his boyfriend were taking some kind of break from their relationship. She ended up having sex with the guy, and the guy's boyfriend found out and got REALLY mad. In the end, she was iced. The guy she had sex w/ didn't acknowledge her existence at all, told his boyfriend she was trying to "wreck" their relationship by lying about him, and that she shouldn't be trusted. She was heartbroken. Apparently they were still dating and he just lied to her, to get in her pants. So yeah, HE was the one who had a secret relationship w/ my friend. My friend was very hurt from it and couldn't get over it for like...months. Sometimes people who don't even mean to be doing that kind of thing get involved, and I think it's unfair to them. It's just a selfish thing to do...dragging people in that mess.

Yeah, once. It was an awful situation. I was the other woman and he ended up being a total ass. I was in high school though, live and learn.